I have sat on my hands more than the required amount of time to maintain unity with groups who don't wish me well. We talk about Black men being kings, kangs, and leaders, but we throw folks away in the process of "building the Black community." More often than not, many men who are respected nationally and in the Houston community perpetuate homophobia and transphobia as love, they are just out to save the community from the white man, they say. But, anti Blackness can and does get perpetuated by Black men, Black men like Wesley Muhammad who claim that “Homosexualization of the Black Community is one of the clearest and most egregious illustrations of the US Government’s Scientific Assault on the Black Man.”
The molestation argument isnt working anymore as more and more poople who come out of the closet have not had the experience of some sexual predator attacking them, so they have moved on to the theory of chemically induced homosexuality. This assertion that homosexuality is a chemical attack, and that our existence is destroying the Black community is based your lack of acceptance of what has always existed within the BLACK community, HOMOSEXUALS! People like Muhammad actually are the ones who won't acknowledge the so called "elephant in the room," the one that has existed before he was a twinkle in your father's eye. WE are not some new chemical phenomenon, WE EXIST, and do I need to remind you that much of the movement for our rights have been led by HOMOSEXUALS, BISEXUAL & TRANS folks who are indeed BLACK?
"You know what destroyed the black men in my family? Drugs, the selling of them and or the usage. I watched the men I looked up to reduced shells of their former selves. I looked at my dad through bars for years, while my mom struggled to keep us above water. Most of us have been and are currently being impacted by this. But yeah sure let’s talk about the “feminization of the black man.” - Raymond Lawson - Pink
I have always had the question in the on my mind of whether or not Cisgender, Heterosexual Black men and women stand with me and others when we need them? It seems like the common answer is a strong "no" when it comes to "pro Black" people like him and his hotep ass friends. It hurts when I think about it and it really shouldnt to be honest, when Black men and their "pick mes" (see Black women who agree with them) say crap like this. When I see Black folks, I see folks that I want to protect and shield from a system of oppression, while feeling a shoe on my throat.
Its their shoe that I feel!
Take your paranoid ass shoes off of our throats and let us live! We are supposed to love, protect and respect each other from any harm towards our Blackness and that may even include ourselves. The only chemical attack is the physiological produced from the stress you bigots induce when you make quacky claims. It leads me to believe that that your faction only thinks that straight Black folks should exist and that you would stop short of full genocide against people who are not like you. The facts are available, but you dont like the facts and your refusal to stop demonizing us when all we want to do is live and love. There is no way to stop us from recognizing our sexual orientation and gender identitiy.... we don't need your acknowledgement. WE EXIST.
We know that rape and molestation does not cause homosexuality, now I will add that Chemicals dont either.
Now that we have identified that this theory is crack pot as fuck, Know that you are not welcome in Houston. Your mission to spread false claims through this event will force me to protest you and the S.H.A.P.E. Community Center. YOU are the assualt on Black America, You are ANTI BLACKNESS.... didnt anyone every teach you that ALL BLACK LIVES MATTER? Whether we are Homosexual, Bisexual or Transgender, we are being murdered because folks believe your bullshit message! Every year BLACK Trans people get murdered, at least 21 (17 Black) were murdered this year. Black people, even Black CHILDREN are being murdered for being percieved to be or for being homosexual....
At a time when Black people are under attack for just being Black, we are attacked for just being who we are. It is deeply insulting that this event would take place in the same week that 21 murdered Black Trans people are being memorialized on the Transgender Day of Remembrance (November 20). The planners of this event, those who extended this invite to you need to know that we have to do better than this. This fracture is for bullshit, why be pro Black if you are going to only honor SOME Black lives?
I, WE ARE DEMANDING THAT YOU CANCEL THESE EVENTS!
IF you do not, we will be at 3903 Almeda Road to protest and ultimately boycott the S.H.A.P.E.Community Center. Your mission statement says the goal is "to improve the quality of life for people of African descent (all people) through programs and activities with an emphasis on Unity, Self-Determination, Collective Work and Responsibility, Cooperative Economics, Purpose, Creativity and Faith" and this event does not reflect that assertion.
ALL BLACK LIVES MATTER!
Pride Houston we Had a Problem...
This situation arises from the allegations that I wrote about on my blog S!N Blog last year. In a two part story I outlined the issues that have plagued Pride Houston with Quijano at the head of the organization. On June 29, 2016 I wrote about how a board member resigned in protest of Quijano and a source leaked it to me...
These are the issues outlined via the leaked letter:
"I simply cannot be part of an organization which conducts itself with such little regard for legal requirements and obligations, fiscal accountability, and the pitiful relationship that Pride Houston and you specifically have with the volunteers, sponsors, and the community at large."
"The power of this organization should never lie with just one or two people, it should be a much broader range of individuals. It should also have a much wider landscape and demographic which has been missing for a long time. May I remind you, the CEO, that as with any Non-Profit Organization, the CEO/President works at the pleasure of the Board of Directors, not the other way around. The CEO answers to the Board, the Board does not answer to the CEO, and that is not how this organization runs itself. The CEO of Pride Houston, Inc. is far too involved in the everyday decision making of the organization while excluding the Board on many levels. This should never be done, as it is the Board who should be making the most major decisions and not the CEO."
"Now is the time to take action, to make Pride Houston, Inc. the standard for LGBTQI organizations in the Houston area. Now is the time to make the Board of Directors truly diverse. It is time to have Lesbians, Transgender, African American, Bisexual, Allies, and other demographics represented to help make decisions that are truly inclusive of all. After the Juneteenth “issue” in 2015, there was to be a “Diversity Committee” and when I tried to put one together at the first volunteer meetings in September and October of 2015, I was told to “hold off” on building that committee and that it would be addressed at a later date. That never happened."
TRANSLATION: Frankie Quijano you need to resign!
Pride Houston Bylaws (2016)
I broke my silence about what happened to Ashley Yates and refrianed from sharing too much of my opinion in order to make sure her story is being told. Today, I will be going deeper into what has transpired and what continues to transpire in this situation.
On Thursday, Ashley broke her silence in an email outlining the abuse that she had to endure during her relationship with Shanelle Matthews. While it was a liberating moment for her to break her long silence, the response from the Network leadership was and still is tepid. I was included in the email thread and I saw WHO got the email... I saw who responded. In this moment, people I really care about and look up to have disappointed me in their silence. Silence that gives the feeling of cover up, that gives the sense of being diminished and I refuse to sit by and be silent. So before I continue here is the original email thread:
The response from Nikita Mitchell (BLM staff) gave me a little hope just by responding...
Thank you for this letter, and for the push to be in a process of transparency and accountability.
We, BLM Global Network leadership, are taking this very seriously. Speaking for myself, as the Director of Organizing, I am committed to co-creating a process that is rooted in our guiding principles, transformative justice, and our deep commitment to our values and shared liberation.
You didn’t state it explicitly, but it sounds like a process of transformative justice is a good next step. If you agree, I think it’s best to have this process held by someone outside of us who shares can move the process forward, and generate outcomes that offer accountability and transformation. I can begin doing outreach to neutral third parties, and suggest someone this week.
Two questions: Are you open to this facilitated process? And, if so, can you get on a call with me today or tomorrow to determine next steps?
We have spoken to Shanelle, and she is committed to this process."
But what is transformative justice?
Transformative justice - Is a general philosophical strategy for responding to conflicts. It takes the principles and practices of restorative justice beyond the criminal justice system. It applies to areas such as environmental law, corporate law, labor-management relations, consumer bankruptcy and debt, and family law. Transformative justice uses a systems approach, seeking to see problems, as not only the beginning of the crime but also the causes of crime, and tries to treat an offense as a transformative relational and educational opportunity for victims, offenders and all other members of the affected community. In theory, a transformative justice model can apply even between peoples with no prior contact.
I am really confused by the silence of folks at every level of the network, especially the ones who can make a decison to REALLY deal with this situation. Most likely they are behind the email and website response , but It is just isnt enough. honestly, it never will be enough to take back the pain Ashley felt and he follow up email from Nakita (which may very well be "well meaning") sounds like they are putting the responsibility on Ashley to handle a situation....
Nikita: "Good Morning,
Ashley, I am following up on my previous email regarding our recommendation that a Transformative Justice process happens in order for the multitude of harm to be addressed and resolved. Since your last communications, we have seen your Medium post and your call for accountability. We fully support a process that brings accountability to the forefront, as well as, restoration.
Again I ask if you would be open to a TJ process, and if so I would love to get on the phone with you soon to help shape said process. We are not trying to dictate or guide it, but want to be of absolute support. Shanelle has also committed to going through a TJ process, and have taken a leave of absence from her staff position to purse this process with integrity.
Please email me or call me at [REDACTED] so that we can chat.
...that only BLM staff can rectify. Which is how to deal with Shanelle being in a leadership roll while calling out all forms of abuse and injustice. The word liability comest to mind and thats exactly what Shanelle is now. The fact is that Shanelle took it upon herself to write a response, that contained microaggressive gaslighing and tepid admission to her role in abusing Ashley:
There is little doubt that this statement was drafted after the email thread occurred and right before the official email that circulated internally, along with their subsequent pubic statement. SEE BELOW.
THE INTERNAL RESPONSE
THE PUBLIC RESPONSE
WHY THE NETWORK RESPONSE IS PROBLEMATIC
You will not get off easy for this Palchick, I wanted to believe that he was being sincere, but he was only telling us what he wanted us to hear to get off of his back. While some of you may disagree and have disbelief, I will continue to stand my ground and I demand a public apology or FBar will be boycotted.